Planning for your wedding can become a drag. Its not that you’re not looking forward to the day you’ve dreamed about, thought about and planned for forever it seems.
But what you may be realizing is that its not all fun and games and that planning your wedding involves lots of hard work, energy, time and some of your heart and soul. It’s a job. You spend weeks or months planning with a million details that have to be taken care of to get to the big day. It can get tedious, frustrating and stressful and it’s easy to lose sight of the reward for all your hard work.
Recently I came to realize that planning a wedding reminds me a lot of a job I used to have. That job also involved months of planning, long hours, and every bit of energy I could muster.
In thinking about what it takes to plan a wedding I came to realize that planning a wedding is an awful lot like producing a movie.
I worked in the film business for a few years and in that time had the opportunity to work on several movies. It took dedication, attention to details, lots of my time and a little bit of my heart and soul to get to the finished product.
Wedding planning like making a movie involves some serious planning and the process of what you need to do to get to the big day is kind of similar.
With a movie you start with a script. With the script in hand you begin the process of figuring out how it’s all going to come together. You’ve got to hire the best cast and crew for the project; a director, producer, actors and a production crew. Then you’ve got to assign all the tasks that need to get done to make it to the big show-screening day. You need to get sets designed. Get your production schedule set up. In other words plan out whats going to happen and when. Find the right locations where you’ll shoot each scene. Plan transportation or how to get everyone to where they need to be.
While I may be over simplifying what it takes to make a move I’m just trying to show you how the planning process itself whether you’re producing a wedding or producing a movie is similar and can be just as overwhelming.
For example for your wedding you the bride are responsible for writing the script. You envision what’s going to happen, and when and who’s going to say what and when.
You have to decide on the actors who will play the supporting cast; bridesmaid, attendants, ushers. Then you need to hire a director or your wedding planner, you hire the crew: the caterers, the photographer, the musicians to play the score for your wedding and reception. You decide on the locations for your wedding and reception: a chapel, church, hotel or banquet hall. You have to create a production schedule or the timeline of events. You have to figure out what to rent for your sets: the chapel and reception hall.
So you see the process is very similar whether you’re planning for your wedding day or movie screening day. And the light al the end of the tunnel is that all the hard work and planning does finally lead to the reward for all your hard work: the screening day of your finished product.
Yes planning a wedding can be a drag at times but don’t let the hard work of planning your wedding get to you. Think of yourself as a big time producer and you’re planning for the screening of the “Big Day.”
Don’t let the “work” take the joy out of what you’re doing remember you’re creating the scenes for one of the big moments of your life. Keep that in mind when you’re feeling stressed and/or exhausted thinking about all “stuff” you have to do to get your wedding day together.
They’ll be moments during the planning process when you’ll feel that you’re ready to give up and when that happens try to remember one thing. Remember that you’re planning and creating your very own “movie” about one of the best moments of your life entitled “My Wedding Day.”